Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Recent thoughts of Grand Parents

I recently had the memorier my grandparents come to mind. My Grandfather Van Arsdale on my Fathers side tragically passed away from his injuries ina car accident in 2003, at the age of 86. He was fairly healthy and my father belive he would have lived to be over 1 hundred. My Grandmother Van Arsdale, had a slow end. She had Parkinson's disease / (cant think of the name). She lost most of her memory and speach became un able to understand towards the end. passed away in september of 2005

About 7 months before my grandfater passed away he discoverd that i was hinvg trouble in school and sent me a statue and a little note.

Dear Matt
I decided to give this to you as something to remember your grandpa. this was given to me at my 50th anniversary at the univeristy of louisville and there is a large statue of this on the campus.
I would likefo you to keep this on your desk and when you see it that you will be reminded of what i belive "the thinker" is thinking. I beive he could be thinking "if only I had studied more" This is no joke and I am very serious. you have great potential. I hope this will help you. your grandmother and I love your family very much and are proud of all of you. I like to belive that you and I have something special between us.

Good luck, love and God bless you
Grandpa

its been almost 4 years now and I am ashamed to say that I still am not doing well in school. I feel Like I have let him down. I never really had the chance to thank him for the statue. I regret not taking the time to go see both my grandparents. Its 2 people I truly miss.

My Grand parents Left a note wich was read at each of their memorial services the letter was for my Father, Aunt and Uncle; who felt that it was best the whole family had heard it.

Dear John, David, & Julia,
It came to me one day that I should write this as who knows waht tomorrow brings and many thoughts and feelings may be missed and not said. First your mother and I love you very much, each of you and equaly. I belive you know this. We may have disagreed at times but we have always stood up for what we thought was in your best interest and we have stood be you in times of trouble. We have had good times together and we haeve tired to give you a good outlook on life. We are proud of each of you for your acomplishments but much more your character. Your ability to face life and your families
In the Last several yearsyour mother and I have really learnes waht our faith means yo us, and is has made a big difference in our lives. This is what we would like yo share with you.
I guess it began when [K.A]. the new ministerwhen he came to our church. He made guts an imagineation. one of the things he said thate lingers homw was that when things seem [imposible]. To put youself in the hand of god. Remember some yours aso when we went to mexico and Dorthy left her purse in the van from the airport. I as in a panic and went out to the airport to try to find it. It contained out air tickets-voucher and some of our money. I rember his talk and [time] to do just that. I prayed that not necessarily that would i find if but to accept his will and be given the strength and wisdom to cope if i was not to find it. The Panic I had felt disapeared and a feeling of peace came like nothing i had felt before. At the airport where the vans were, there was the driver standing with his back to me. I knew it was him even though I had not gotten a look at his face and it was night when we arrived. I knew god had answered my prayers. I thanked him as we found the purse still then the van.
Since then we have learned more about our faith and made it more a part of our lives it seems to boil down to this -

That god is there his will is shown in various ways. He workse through people. you can feel his presence if you are sensative to it.

One of the Who sommandments that Jesus gave is that your should love your god with all your heart and soul and mind. this is really putting yourself in the hand of god and not have an other [gods] before him such as money, power, position. That is to say that there are not to be sought after but that your do not leave god out but you [count] his help and blessings. the old testament is a history of how people reject god for other gods.
The secound Commandment is to ove your nightbor as yourself. your mother is a furm example of this =. its mands carring for others- giving them the benift of the doubt - of acepting them as they are of [helping} - of being sensative to the needer and feelins of others.
If you Follow the commandments you will have an inner peace and happy life.
This sorta sounds like a sermon but it is something we dident find for many years. I hope you will find it. If you have not done so. It dosent mean to stop working hard or enjoying life but itis a way of life that will give you peace and happiness. If is a different thing to put god in the "drivers seat" bit it can be done. It takse stong faith of humbling oneself before ihm. it takes acceping what happens and thanking him for each day. The many blessings asking forgiveness for sins. try imagining eash mornings to start that day in some quiet moment for sucess for forgiveness. It makes a difference to have god on your side. You mother and I when we had hard times would say that got would take casre of his Sparrows and small things would happen to help. It seems like there has always sparrows ready. Prayer is your life line with god. we pray that you will find it with god and have a happy full and meaningful life wiht your families. if somethings happend to us the estate is to be dived equaly among you. I segest you put it in a negotiable Living trust and we the income to supplemtn your retirment and social security.
The decision to sell the Glen Lake PLace but then again god has arranged that the sale will hlep with the expenses. we had weonderful times at the Lake and Great memories.
So thankful for the past look forward to the future. put yourself in the hand of god and work in peace and love. we thank god and your for comine into our lives. god Bless and you all and your families.
Mom and Dad

How Could I write a blog on my grandparents and leave out my mothers parents.
My grandmother Dawson Passed away from Ovarian Cancer in my home when i was 5. My grandfather Dawson Passed away from cancer when my mother was 18. I really didn't know them as well as I would have liked and it has been a hard life trying to imagine what they were like. 

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